I’ve been thinking about why my relationships go from zero to 60 and then crash and burn in such a short time period, and I think I’ve come up with a valid theory. I think what I’m looking for out of dating and what the men (I use the term loosely) I date are expecting out of the experience is not the same thing. Dating sites tend to have a section where you answer questions about that, to help you find someone who is looking for the same thing you are, or avoid the ones who are not. Continue reading Why Do You Date?
At some point it was decided that going to a movie was a bad idea for a date (especially a first date). With sites like HowAboutWe.com putting an emphasis on being creative with your dates, the simple “dinner and a movie” date seems a bit old fashioned.
But it doesn’t have to be.
And if you’re going to enjoy a movie as part of your date, then Jurassic World is a pretty good choice… if you do it right.
I love it when my faith in synchronistic events is reinforced. After the latest posts, this comic showed up in my Facebook newsfeed. It pretty much sums up my feelings on the correspondences with a certain someone, which finally seem to have stopped.
Yesterday I wrote a post sharing some of the things that Mr. West Coast has said to me in our correspondences. It wasn’t everything. I left out anything that I felt would have been too personal, such as information about where he works or about his family situation. I focused on the things that I found particularly condescending, demeaning, misogynistic, irritating… choose your adjective.
I had full intentions of leaving it alone from there. I thought his words spoke well enough on their own, but some of the responses I’ve gotten have prompted me to discuss it a bit more, though this will be the last of it.
I’ve had people comment that they wanted his number because they liked flowers, and that it was as simple as he was “trolling” me because “he wants attention.”
I even had one person tell me that my sharing the content was somehow like revenge porn… Still not sure how that works exactly, particularly since I didn’t share any personal information and because Mr. West Coast has made comments to the effect that it showed a lack of character on my part for not sharing his words directly. And some of it came from comments he left on my blog, ones that I didn’t let through because of the negative tone they held. In fact the last one, the one in full, was left as a comment.
I could very well have just let the comments through, but due to their length and what I felt was a predominantly negative or manipulative tone, I didn’t. Continue reading Responses to Mr. West Coast’s words.