This coffee share will not be quite like normal as things (like the title suggests) underwent a very sudden shift this week. So I’ll offer you some coffee or tea to go, but I don’t think we’ll have time to sit and have our normal sort of chat.
The week started off alright, though I had been stressing a tiny bit about getting all my grading done. Since I don’t really feel like a teacher right now (doing mini lessons via Zoom and moving grades from an online program into my gradebook is NOT teaching!), I haven’t been as on top of grades as I should be. Probably dropped the ball in a few other areas as well…
But, I stayed up late Tuesday night to get as close to caught up as I could, given that about 40% of my students hadn’t turned in ANY work by that point. Keep in mind, we’ve been doing online “distance learning” for about two months now.
Then, I was woken up by my brother earlyish on Wednesday morning. I should have been up earlier, but I was up pretty late grading papers and I’d already done my Zoom meeting on Tuesday, so I turned my alarm off, and so it was later than it should have been, but still earlyish.
This was what I woke up to: My Dad had an accident, and my brother was at the hospital waiting to see him or bring him home. Details weren’t clear at that point.
For that matter, details still aren’t 100% clear. Here is what I know:
My Dad somehow veered off the road and into a ditch. As a result, he broke his sternum and his L7 vertebra. While testing, they identified something was very wrong with his kidneys. Since then, they have done surgery in order to drain the kidneys and/or bladder, and they said that if this accident hadn’t happened and he hadn’t gone into the hospital, he probably would have been dead within the month; his kidneys were very close to full kidney failure.
Until his kidney function is up to a healthy level, they can’t do the surgery they need to do to fix his back, and because of his back, they can’t position him in a way so as to do a biopsy to determine if it is cancer… though that word has been thrown around a lot more than I’m comfortable with.
Because of the CoronaVirus, only one of us can go to see him at a time: only one visitor per DAY.
On Wednesday, my brother went because he was the one that was initially contacted about the accident. Granted, that is because they work together and it happened during work hours (my whole family works in Education and so we are all in some way “Essential Workers”).
The next day, I didn’t even get a choice. My mother (Dad’s ex) was there before I was even awake. Apparently he asked for her to be there because they were married for over 30 years and she has always been in charge of things for him, so he needed her there, and she still loves him, so she went.
Friday was supposed to be my day, but I teach high school and had to have all my senior grades submitted by noon. I had several Zoom meetings in order to go over the end of the year procedures (a necessity since this is a new school and CoVid has changed all normal procedures) and both parents and students were blowing up my email because they were trying to get all their work turned in… even though it was late, and they’ve known for over a month what assignments were due when.
As such, my mother took another day with him.
So, now, Saturday is my day. By the time most of you read this, I will either be there with my father, or I will be home already.
This sudden event has completely shifted the attitudes of everyone around me. We’re all a little bit in shock, but the general consensus is that this needed to happen because Dad is stubborn and we’ve all been trying to get him to see a doctor for over a year. The silver lining or blessing in disguise is that he is finally getting the treatment he needed to have gotten months ago.
Hopefully it’s not too late.
I have faith that it’s not. I believe in a purposeful universe, and I can’t believe that the Divine would put him through an accident that would bring these problems to light only to let it be the end.
Actually, one of the few things (other than grading) I did manage to accomplish this week was a post about being in flow with the universe…
So, that’s my situation at the moment. Thank you for letting me get it out of my system. Being trapped away from most of my friends, and not able to really discuss it with my family because we’re all feeling the same turmoil of emotions, has made this more difficult than I think it normally would have been.
I hope things were much brighter in your world this week!